Weekly training

So as my most loyal of readers will remember, for the past few months I have undergone weekly training session with a DC Sir named Larry who I have known for a few years now. We have played before, and I had already learned a lot from him about play and submission in general when I agreed to commit to once-a-week meetings. I had told him I wanted to learn more about submission, and he agreed to me explore if I was willing to treat it like a serious endeavor.

Some of you have asked why I didn’t document these weekly sessions, and there are a few reasons for that. For starters, not every week involved kinky (or any) play or sex. Some weeks were perfectly non sexual, and some were sexual without any kink. Also, what I learned through my training I learned gradually throughout our relationship as opposed to at a specific instance.

So what did I learn? Well, where people think “training sessions”, they probably think I learned how to sit, stay, etc…. To give a Dom a massage, to clean for him, to cook for him, etc… Basically, “training session” connotes learning a behavior. But frankly, I didn’t really learn any particular behavior. I already knew how to do all the aforementioned things.

No. What I learned was how to interact intimately with a Dominant man, and how to really BE submissive. This is two pronged. Learning about the interaction mostly refers to learning about communication. How to appropriately speak to and with a Sir. This includes not only how one speaks to Him, but also how to bring up problems and concerns in a way that emphasizes your trust in Him. I even talked to him about how to avoid being too pushy. More accurately, we talked about how to be just pushy enough for a Sir to find it charming. Hehe

As mentioned earlier, I also learned about how to actually be submissive and serve. Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of experience serving men (sexually and domestically). But ALL of it has been from a self-serving place. Now sure, I have done things for men because I was crazy about them and just wanted to do something sweet, but even then it always suited my own desires as well. Having this weekly schedule with Larry made me force myself to push through the times when I wasn’t really up to it. I had made a commitment to serve Him, so even when I was feeling a bit blahh I had to remember that it was really about Him.

There were also some very hot sexual scenes, but these are the two areas in which I grew the most during my training. In just a few short months, I feel like I gained some invaluable insight into and understanding of what it means to serve a man.