Thanks

Thanks to a very special reader for today. I feel like the luckiest boy in the whole wide world. ^ _ ^

New York Bondage Club

So here is a fun spot of news. I will be doing a trial run as a junior partner at the New York Bondage Club. Loyal readers will remember, fondly I hope, that I used to go there every week when I first moved to NYC two summers ago. I quickly befriended the staff, or more accurately, they quickly befriended me and welcomed me into the group (which I couldn’t have appreciated more as a new boy in the big city).

About a month ago, Brian from the NYBC was down in DC for the weekend and he stopped by for my rope bondage demo for SIGMA. Impressed with my work, and open to the idea of hiring a young capable top, we started talking about the possibility of me working at the club. What we decided on was a trial run with me working there for a few months to see how it works. If I’m not a good fit (as decided by either me or the staff), then I will stop working there with no hard feelings (and still probably attend frequently).

So starting this Sunday, until whenever, I will be part of the crew that runs the club. I’ll be mingling with guests, talking to people, getting them to open up, and also putting on scenes. As I usually do at the club, I will mostly be topping the scenes as opposed to bottoming. Part of that has to do with comfort levels (playing with a top I barely know), and part of it has to do with snobbery haha. The bondage club is just that, a bondage club. Sex happens, but its all about the bondage. And if there is one thing that turns me off, its when an incompetent top tries to keep me roped. All I do is just sit and think about how poor of a job he is doing, making it impossible for me to reach any level of sub headspace.

So, if you have never been to the club, check out OUR website at www.nybondageclub.com and consider swinging by some Sunday night. And if you’re a reader, make sure you find me and let me know. Love meeting the people who read me! Who knows, maybe you’ll end up bound and gagged ;-).

Weekly training

So as my most loyal of readers will remember, for the past few months I have undergone weekly training session with a DC Sir named Larry who I have known for a few years now. We have played before, and I had already learned a lot from him about play and submission in general when I agreed to commit to once-a-week meetings. I had told him I wanted to learn more about submission, and he agreed to me explore if I was willing to treat it like a serious endeavor.

Some of you have asked why I didn’t document these weekly sessions, and there are a few reasons for that. For starters, not every week involved kinky (or any) play or sex. Some weeks were perfectly non sexual, and some were sexual without any kink. Also, what I learned through my training I learned gradually throughout our relationship as opposed to at a specific instance.

So what did I learn? Well, where people think “training sessions”, they probably think I learned how to sit, stay, etc…. To give a Dom a massage, to clean for him, to cook for him, etc… Basically, “training session” connotes learning a behavior. But frankly, I didn’t really learn any particular behavior. I already knew how to do all the aforementioned things.

No. What I learned was how to interact intimately with a Dominant man, and how to really BE submissive. This is two pronged. Learning about the interaction mostly refers to learning about communication. How to appropriately speak to and with a Sir. This includes not only how one speaks to Him, but also how to bring up problems and concerns in a way that emphasizes your trust in Him. I even talked to him about how to avoid being too pushy. More accurately, we talked about how to be just pushy enough for a Sir to find it charming. Hehe

As mentioned earlier, I also learned about how to actually be submissive and serve. Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of experience serving men (sexually and domestically). But ALL of it has been from a self-serving place. Now sure, I have done things for men because I was crazy about them and just wanted to do something sweet, but even then it always suited my own desires as well. Having this weekly schedule with Larry made me force myself to push through the times when I wasn’t really up to it. I had made a commitment to serve Him, so even when I was feeling a bit blahh I had to remember that it was really about Him.

There were also some very hot sexual scenes, but these are the two areas in which I grew the most during my training. In just a few short months, I feel like I gained some invaluable insight into and understanding of what it means to serve a man.

Open thread: fantasies!

Hey guys, so I am moving home today for two weeks to see my family during the holidays. Finally will be moving to NYC on Jan 1. In the meantime, help me avoid feeling sad and nostalgic!

As I occasionally do, I would love to get some feedback from everyone and have an open forum! The topic: discuss one fantasy that you have that you have never made come true! Even people who play a lot have fantasies, and some never come into fruition. So whats yours?

Moving on

Wow. I'm leaving DC tomorrow, presumably for good. Thinking back to the 18yo boy who first moved into these dorms four years ago...well its just crazy. So much has changed. I've changed. As much as I rag on it sometimes, DC has been really good to me. And I think it really was a perfect environment to be 18-22 in. I've had opportunities I couldn't have gotten anywhere else, developed relationships with all kinds of interesting people, and embarked on a real sexual journey. If I tried to capture it all in writing it would be a short novel, so I'm not going to try. I'm actually going to keep it short, and in a rather unusual twist, keep these emotions somewhat private.

I guess I just wanted to say thanks to DC and all of the people here who have made the past four years so rich and rewarding.