You know, I wanted to write a bit about something that turns me on. I like being bossed around. I like being given orders and expected to complete them. Now while that may seem obvious to a lot of you who have read even one post on this blog, let me clarify. I enjoy this completely independently of any sort of Dom/sub relationship. The relationships I have written about before deal with love, trust, and emotional, mental, and sexual fulfillment. The type of orders I am talking about (lately at least) have been coming from a top I used to play with years ago, who I had developed a more platonic friendship with recently. Until a month or two ago, we hadn't played in a long time. Frankly I don't even remember how it happened, but recently we realized we both enjoyed the process of him giving me orders for fun.
This isn't really submission. There are aspects of it that deal with submission, but really this is just about sexual gratification for both parties. This is why a lot of people in the community would look down on such an exchange; "I'm not really submitting, I am just playing". And yeah, I am. And hey, I have no problem with that. Play is great! It's fun. It's non-serious. It doesn't add any additional responsibility to my life. Does it fulfill me like a Sir/boy relationship would? Of course not. But why does that matter? I don't expect it to meet all my needs, just this very specific one. When I get his emails with my instructions that he came up with, it makes my dick hard. It gets me all excited, and what more could I ask for from such a simple exchange?
Keep in mind: THIS IS NOT AN INVITATION FOR YOU ALL TO EMAIL ME ORDERS HAHAHA. He and I have a very well-established connection, which has a lot to do with why this works for us. However, please leave feedback or questions. Who knows what may be in store for me if he sees a lot of positive responses/requests on here!
6 comments:
hi,
can i ask what kind of orders he gives you? are they strictly sexual or do you have to do things like household chores?
the idea of a dom/sub relationship really gets my juices going, but i´m not exploring this side of my sexuality like you do. at least not as thoroughly as you do :-)
i really like to read all what you write in your blog. thank you for that.
keep up the good work and the exploration :-)
"THIS IS NOT AN INVITATION FOR YOU ALL TO EMAIL ME ORDERS"
Darnit! And I was coming up with a list of tasks for you to do.
I had all these thoughts about having you do calisthenics to exhaustion and then taking advantage of your then-weakened condition. ;)
Yes, I would like to know what he emails you to do. This does sound exciting. I would also like to see your responses as well. If not, you could also give us examples.
Here is what he emailed me to christen my new apartment the day I moved in:
1. Wear your leather harness and a jock under your clothes all day.
2. Once the movers leave, strip down so you are wearing only the harness and the jock.
3. Immediately gag yourself with the socks you are wearing.
4. Make a rope ball stretcher and tie it around your balls.
5. Get on all fours and bury your nose inside the sneakers you will have worn all day while moving. Bury your face deep enough in them so your nose is pressed against the inside bottom of the shoe.
6. Stroke your cock using that dirty cum sock you stole, edging yourself but do not cum.
Take pictures of each step listed above and email them all to me after you are done with step six. In your email include a testament that you are nothing more than a cocksucking slut and beg me to fuck your throat when I am there in three weeks. Make it convincing.
I'll reply to your email when I receive it. If I'm pleased with what I see and read, I will text you to call me. I want to hear you beg me over the phone to let you cum while you jerk your dick and tell me what a horny slut you are and how badly you want a cock deep down your throat. If I have not told you to cum or to call me, keep begging via email and text and I will give you additional orders as I see fit before telling you to call me and beg me to let you cum. Do not cum without following these orders--I want to hear you cum over the phone.
If there is any step that is not clear to you, reply to this email with necessary questions. Otherwise, reply with your agreement to the orders you've been given.
I love the thought-provoking nature of this blog...
Over the past few weeks, my thoughts keep returning to this particular posting. I keep wondering--how do dominant guys feel when they are on the other end of this kind of a setup?
In my limited experience as a Dom, the fun isn't in just giving the orders and having them carried out. The fun is in the mind and desires of the guy carrying them out. I like knowing that a guy is carrying out my orders, not just because he likes the orders, but that he is doing so to please ME, make ME happy, and subsume his dislike or discomfort in order to satisfy ME.
Maybe others can shed more light...but, after reading this post I found myself wondering whether subs are different in that orders can be hot regardless of who is giving them, while for a Dom, the orders themselves are not the turn-on--the submission and obedience of a particular man is.
Perhaps I just need to give more orders and see much fun it is :) But, I couldn't help but think that subs are awfully lucky being able to enjoy being bossed around and given orders regardless of who is on the other end...
Hey Ben, I have the same liking - about being given orders. It might be like doing things sexually but also what to wear, what to drink (alcohol), when to cum or not, what dildo to use etc. It's all hot to me too! I want to work at Nasty Pig too as I am moving to NYC. Any suggestions?
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